Either I tell the kids about the horrors at Virginia Tech or they find out about it at their elementary school. Check out Wordless Wednesday for other photos.
So far my 3rd grade grandson hasn't been enlightened. I'm surprised, because he reads the newspaper at school. It brings back such horrid memories of Columbine, right down the road from us.
I teach 3rd grade and not a single student asked about it today. We get the newspaper and it was on the front cover and they still didn't say anything.
Honesty really is the best policy. No matter how hard it is for us.
It's always best to tell them yourself! Then YOU get to choose the spin that goes on it! But murder is murder and there is no pretty way to let them in on it... it is certainly a tragic time. My heart and prayers go out to every family...
We usually take a direct approach with our kids too because they seem to take it better coming from us than their peers. And in that way, you can insert your own feelings about what happened and the kids aren't getting some half-cocked version of the story. Stuff like this makes me want to build a gigantic bubble to encapsulate and protect my family in.
I say tell them - they can handle it. Better they find out the truth from someone they trust. Great Wordless, here's my Wordless post over at High Strangeness Altoona. If you're feeling saucy click my Alexa link to raise my rating. Patrick
Makes me so thankful that my little guy is still small enough that all I have to do is turn off the TV and he doesn't have to see it.... but a sad reminder that a lot of people can't even do that.
Thank goodness mine are only 4 and 1 1/2. They are too young to really ask questions. But, if the oldest did I would be honest with her. It's hard to explain it to them, but you know they have to learn how cruel this world can be sometime. Good luck to you.
The killings at Virginia Tech will hopefully open up more hearts to troubled youth. Talking with our children about the "not nice" is important. We can teach them empathy and talk about hypothetical situations they may find themselves in. Depending on the age of our children will determine how we approach the subject but it must be done. We need to raise our children in this troubled world giving as many tools as we can for them to navigate within.
Coming from a Va. school and being a parent of a Hokie, you just can't hide what has happened. We have discussed it at our school. My WW is also about Va. Tech. Go Hokies
That's unfortunate. It would be nice to let our kids stay innocent longer. I remember feeling very happy that my youngest was oblivious on 9/11, but the oldest was in high school then and they talked about it all day. When I got home, he was all talked out.
Hope your kids are ok and not experiencing any trauma from hearing about all of it.
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It's just so sad.
Sadly it will be impossible to hide it. A horrible event.
Very true.
The truth is best, but it's a hard lesson finding out what the world can be like.
That's a photo that leaves me speechless on Wordless Wednesday.
Such social insanity. Senseless killings.
May the souls lost be guided to their final destination with love and compassion. Bless their families with the strength to forgive.
D :)
Honesty is the best policy. It's so sad to watch this unfolding on the news but good that you have made us remember others today x x
So sad, so senseless.
That is so sad.
Terrible event. Made big news here in Britain.
So far my 3rd grade grandson hasn't been enlightened. I'm surprised, because he reads the newspaper at school. It brings back such horrid memories of Columbine, right down the road from us.
I teach 3rd grade and not a single student asked about it today. We get the newspaper and it was on the front cover and they still didn't say anything.
Honesty really is the best policy. No matter how hard it is for us.
It's rough, isn't it?
Yeah, like mine, it's hard to know what to do or say
This will continue to be the norm. The dynamics in America are changing. Yes, this is sad.
It's always best to tell them yourself! Then YOU get to choose the spin that goes on it! But murder is murder and there is no pretty way to let them in on it... it is certainly a tragic time. My heart and prayers go out to every family...
We usually take a direct approach with our kids too because they seem to take it better coming from us than their peers. And in that way, you can insert your own feelings about what happened and the kids aren't getting some half-cocked version of the story. Stuff like this makes me want to build a gigantic bubble to encapsulate and protect my family in.
It is so sad and horrible. Truth is best.
Angel
My granddaughter watched it with me. She xould not figure out why someone would use a gun that way. She said he must ave been really stupid
horrible incident!! we are all grieving for them!
I say tell them - they can handle it. Better they find out the truth from someone they trust. Great Wordless, here's my Wordless post over at High Strangeness Altoona. If you're feeling saucy click my Alexa link to raise my rating. Patrick
How do we explain to our kids things we can't understand?
It's always better coming from a loving parent.
Children can deal with everything other than the secrecy that makes them imagine even more horrible things.
Makes me so thankful that my little guy is still small enough that all I have to do is turn off the TV and he doesn't have to see it.... but a sad reminder that a lot of people can't even do that.
Lisa - Lil Duck Duck
It's always better to come from the parents, but I'm sure you know that.
We've been praying for the survivors and families, etc. since it happened. God will turn it to good, even if we don't see it.
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Wishing you a wonderful Wednesday.
my heart goes out to them all.
Thank goodness mine are only 4 and 1 1/2. They are too young to really ask questions. But, if the oldest did I would be honest with her. It's hard to explain it to them, but you know they have to learn how cruel this world can be sometime. Good luck to you.
so sad... I don't even know what to say.
true and timely. lovely post.
The killings at Virginia Tech will hopefully open up more hearts to troubled youth. Talking with our children about the "not nice" is important. We can teach them empathy and talk about hypothetical situations they may find themselves in. Depending on the age of our children will determine how we approach the subject but it must be done. We need to raise our children in this troubled world giving as many tools as we can for them to navigate within.
The most thought provoking WW that's for sure.
Be well and enjoy the day
that's a small example of how I felt on September 11... what do I tell the kids?
It can't be avoided...no matter how much we wish it could. There is a great post regarding just this at Faith Lifts/Parenting.
Diane
SIlent picture today..Thanks for the reminder..IT is horrible
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Some times it just seems like the world just keeps getting worse and worse with all of this senseless crimes.
sad. :(
"Wordless" is appropriate for such a tragedy.
Beautifully said...
Coming from a Va. school and being a parent of a Hokie, you just can't hide what has happened. We have discussed it at our school. My WW is also about Va. Tech.
Go Hokies
True. Very sad that we even have to tell our kids about these horrors...
Better to talk about it at home first. Thanks for visiting.
That's unfortunate. It would be nice to let our kids stay innocent longer. I remember feeling very happy that my youngest was oblivious on 9/11, but the oldest was in high school then and they talked about it all day. When I got home, he was all talked out.
Hope your kids are ok and not experiencing any trauma from hearing about all of it.
Better that they know from you then from others, it is a hard lesson that none of us want to be exposed to. I can't imagine a child's feelings.
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