Saturday, December 29, 2007

Now & Then: Sunday Scribblings

I’m having a hell of a time trying to write a Sunday Scribblings with the prompt of “Now & Then.” I thought about looking at my childhood and comparing it to my children’s lives. But I discarded that track because it just didn’t flow for me.

So I thought about my teen years, my young adult years, my 30’s, and me today. But that didn’t flow either. And my writing here is all about flow. If it doesn’t come to me, I walk away. I don’t know how much that trait will help me with writing a book (or two! or three!). I see a jumbled mess coming my way.

So, “now & then” is the prompt, eh?

My daughter is 9. For the last month or two, she has been bemoaning that she doesn’t want to grow up. When I ask for a reason, she notes that adults don’t have any fun. And I want to tell her all the wonders that await her.

You’ll gain freedom. That freedom is exhilarating. It drives you to do more and more, to do things you never thought possible. You’ll embrace risks, ideally risks with no long-term ill effects. You’ll drive a car, and you’ll be able to drive anywhere. You’ll go to college and meet so many new people and, hopefully, find your passion and start to make your way. After college, there’s so much awaiting you, calling to you. You can travel. You can stay home, a home that is yours. You’ll find a job which is fueled by your passion. You’ll succeed. Eventually, you’ll meet a wonderful guy. There’s true love awaiting you. And likely there are children to come.

Mingled within the wonders are the bad times. The cliques in middle school and high school. The stresses of getting good grades. The falling in and out of friendships. The falling in and out of love. The rending away of the shackles of parents.

I guess my life now looks pretty dull to a 9-year-old girl. [Heck, it probably looks dull to anyone looking in.] I am where I want to be. I am happy. I am content. Then, I was searching. Now, I have found what I was seeking. She will, too.

26 comments:

tumblewords said...

Nice post. At nine, it's difficult to see beyond tomorrow. And until you fall into a particular groove, it doesn't get easier...then, it changes. Grin. Your lovely post sent me off in a million different directions and sets of recall!

Just Jen said...

I didn't do the prompt cuz I just couldn't wrap my head around it. You did a great job and made me want to say those things to my boys!

UL said...

This was lovely, the search and the find transformed into then and now... happy 2008 to you :)

Linda said...

Then - you couldn't think of what to write.

Now - you have a great post!

I remember being 9 (because my birthday is 9/9 it was a particularly important number!) but I don't remember not wanting to grow up. On the other hand, I'm sure I wanted to but now I wish I could go back and just do it a little slower because the years have flown since then. Flown away very quickly. Too quickly.

Even though there are many joys to be had as an adult, I hope your daughter enjoys her childhood to its fullest.

Anonymous said...

I remember those days with my daughter... (and had forgotten them until your post, thank you). I took it as a compliment that she was happy right where she was.... maybe your daughter is too, just like you!

Happy to 2008 to you both.
Dee
http://pavinganewroad.wordpress.com/

Redness said...

To realise we have it all within is the ultimate - what a fortunate girl she is! Beautiful post!

Linda said...

This interesting post proves that the only way through the doldrums is just to keep writing, writing, and before you know it...

Sandy Carlson said...

Thank God for a little dullness now and then! My 9-year-old lives for dull times! (She's old before her time.)

God bless!

Sherry said...

I think you found the flow!!
Wishing you a happy new year and the joy of watching a 9 year old flower into a beautiful adult.

Frances said...

I remember being released from curfews when I turned 18 years old.
Oh what a rush that was!
Thanks for triggering that memory.
May your 2008 be totally great.

Josie Two Shoes said...

Beautiful post, Patty! Each time in my life that I thought the future didn't seem all that inviting, I've discovered how wrong I can be - there are always new suprises and blessings waiting!

D... said...

You did a really great take on the prompt. Having a daughter who also doesn't want to grow up(she fights it tooth & nail at times), this really spoke to me.

Amy said...

so reflective. hope you have a nice new years!!!

Awareness said...

I had a tough time with this prompt too until I decided to look at what I "saw" in between now and then...:)

I find your piece very interesting because I recall having the same conversations with my daughter at that age. She REALLY didn't want to grow up.........and it had something to do with her realization that we are mortal..... This has led to many subsequent conversations. Fortunately, she got over not wanting to grow up. The mortality thing? Well, we are all dealing with that one aren't we?

secret agent mama said...

That's why I tell mine to embrace boredom, at times. I mean, there's so much going on in their little lives right now-you're right-we must seem boring and dull!

jerseygirl said...

Hey. Nice post. Somehow I missed the "feed your passion" in college though, but I am working on feeding it now. Kevin squeezes his head once in awhile se he won;t grow up. I help. I don;t want him to grow up either. Happy New Year!

Granny Smith said...

Your nine-year-old has a wise mother! A great post.

Herb Urban said...

Excellent job of putting things in perspective. When I was nine, all I ever thought about was playing baseball. I'm glad I eventually grew up. Life has so much more to offer.

Hope you and your family have a wonderful New Year!

MamaGeek said...

Hi Patois, it's me (WFM), I just changed my profile name. I hope you and your fam had an awesome Christmas.

I love the last line in this post that you hope she seeks and finds as well. Happy new year!

forgetfulone said...

That was a great post. I had a difficult time with the prompt, but something fell in my brain, and I went with it.

Kamsin said...

What a lovely post! I still feel like I don't particularly want to grow up sometimes! But yeah life is so full of amazing things, good to enjoy the age you are now, even better to find out what exciting things being a year older has to bring!

Bren said...

Great post! Love the last part and how you tied the "Now and Then" with the search.

Skyelarke said...

yup, we will all find what we are looking for. Eventually.

LittleWing said...

gee, i kinda felt the same way...btw, your post is beautiful...

Liza's Eyeview said...

I'm quite late in visiting (yep, late again). The new prompt is out - a little bit similar to this although it can be taken in a different angle :)

Happy New Year :)

Laura McIntyre said...

Somedays i agree with your 9 year old, to go back to the wonder and stress free time of that age would be lovely (for a couple of days only)

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