Sunday, December 28, 2008

Sunday Scribblings: I Believe

Not that long ago, I did a post after being tagged with a meme on five things I want my children to know before they grow up. When I saw the Sunday Scribblings prompt this week, I figured my beliefs would be stamped all over that post. Certainly a few of my important beliefs were there, but I don't think I really hit the mark.

I believe in God. I believe He hears my prayers. I believe He doesn't always answer them. I believe that's just something I've got to live with.

I believe that life's not fair. Like I said regarding what I want my children to know: Bad people often win. Good people often lose. Railing against the unfairness of it all won't help. That's not to say that you shouldn't fight against injustice. It's just that sometimes you won't win.

I believe that doing good things for others can only lead to good for me. This is another one I wrote about wanting my children to know. When I say it can "only lead to good for me," I mean that doing something good for someone else makes me feel good. I don't expect something back in return, although I do believe that many try to pay it forward.

Of course, I don't believe bad people pay it forward. You know those bad guys that you just despise who always seem to win. Of course, believing in God, I do believe that, although life isn't fair, the afterlife is. God will deal with the bad guys later on. And I'm okay with that. Usually.

I believe that having a dog is, in fact, not like having a child. I was never planning on having children. My life was one of many a DINK couple. [Double Income No Kids, folks.] Our dog was our child. He died when he was 17. He was irreplaceable. And then when I was 34, my life went in another direction and I ultimately had children. That dog whom I adored? He was just a dog. I loved him, definitely, but he was not just like a child.

I believe it's okay to lie to young children, to fill their heads with fantasies of faeries, tooth and otherwise, the Easter Bunny, magic and Santa Claus. Of course, we hate to think of it as "lying," but that really is what it is. We tell our children never to lie and then, there we go again, lying about Santa. How unfair is that? Ah, but remember that life's not fair.

Now, I do believe it's time you read some other Sunday Scribblings posts. Go on, get going.


floreta said...

my favorite is that it's good to lie to your kids! anything that sparks and keeps up the imagination is fine by me! i know of a mom.. who convinced her 7 year old kid that there are gnomes and had this elaborate story about it all that she would play with him.. her sister thought it was a stupid idea and unfair for the kid to go through school believing in these things but i had to silently disagree and thought it was absolutely magical and sweet!

D... said...

Our youngests aren't the only kindred spirits.

Lucy said...

this is so beauty filled! want to be my mom? haha
I love your beliefs and words of wisdom! Your philosophy on the DoG!
So true, but isn't it so true too that people who Only have dogs Can't imagine they would love a child more?! I was one of those till my first was born!
loved this post Patois!

Granny Smith said...

My grown children tell me that one of the most helpful things that we taught them is that life isn't fair. They all accept as their moral obligation that they should work for justice but expect no rewards. I also agree with you that we should lie to children in the sense that their world is populated with fantasy creatures. I think that they should recognize the fantasies as not of the real world, a real world in which they should be absolutely honest and truthful.

Obviously your post got me to thinking! Good job!!

anthonynorth said...

You're right about life not being fair. And I guess the sooner we realise this, and have an attitude to expect unfairness, the quicker we can become optimistic about when things DO go right.

quin browne said...

oh, so, sweetly done.

Anonymous said...

I love how you have positioned life not being fair. It is very true and is probably one of the most disappointing things our children will discover. I like how you explained it that sometimes, bad people will win and good people will lose, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't fight for what they believe.

gautami tripathy said...

Life is not fair. But if it was, would we belive in anything at all? We need the negative to reinforce the positive.

guts wrench out.....

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linda may said...

G'Day, part of this post had me thinking of the rolling Stones song, "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you might get what you need...."
Good beliefs I believe.

Anonymous said...

I actually wrote once, while pregnant with my first, "I hope I love my kids as much as the dog." Then I gave birth and my heart exploded with love. You are right, suddenly, she was just a dog. A good dog, but a dog.


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