Sunday, January 4, 2009

Sunday Scribblings: For Richer or Poorer

I am fortunate. I have never been really poor. Oh, I've been college student poor. And I guess my family was large-Catholic-family-led-by-military-man poor for the early years of my childhood. I've been starting-out-in-Reagan's-recession poor. I've also been California-homeowner-with-mortgage poor. But I've never had to worry about having a roof over my head or having enough to eat or having holes in my shoes.

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I am fortunate, too, in that I've never been rich. In my PK life -- pre-kids, that is -- I had periods of time where my rent was minimal, my years were young, my pay was fabulous, and I had loads of disposable income. Later married for the first time to an older man, we had two homes, two cars, big bonuses, and more money than we knew what to do with. "I know, let's build a luxury home on a fabulous lot in Tahoe." And so we did.

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It was precisely 13 years ago that I realized I was poor, even amid the money and houses and jewels and nice clothes and fully funded IRAs and retirement accounts. Sickeningly saccharine as it sounds, I was in emotional poverty. It took a near-death experience to make me own up to it. But own up to it, I did, and I walked away from all that I had, signing quit-claim deeds along the way.

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Today, there are three kids who suck us dry, monetarily speaking, making us poorer with each shoe size increase and permanent tooth eruption. But, ah, how much richer our lives are.

[Writers at Sunday Scribblings do Rich Man, Poor Man posts today. Make sure you check them out.]

15 comments:

D... said...

Again, you are right on. I am monetarily "poor" but, oh so "rich" in all other aspects of my life. I definitely prefer it this way as opposed to the opposite.

Giggles said...

This is fabulously written... a cut above! I enjoyed it and share much the same....yes being rich in spirit truly is the key!

I loved this post!!

Hugs Giggles

Jenn in Holland said...

This is more than fabulously written, this is spot-on and utterly poetic.
May we all be so rich as to know who we are and honor our very being!
Beautiful post.

CP said...

So very very true. Well written and right on.

Tara R. said...

Rich is so much more than money. This post was a wonderful reminder of that.

Tumblewords: said...

Good thinking - we are owned by our possessions rather than the other way around (imho) Nice writing.

Lucy said...

You wrote this straight from the heart and straight to my heart.
i so agree and really enjoyed the reminder. :)

Linda Jacobs said...

Oh, yes, kids make money irrelevant in the long run! (But, boy is it ever handy!)

Sweet Talking Guy.. said...

Nice one, yeah kids can make the difference - but whatever, it's good to find some peace!

Michelle said...

We have the same problem with kids sucking us dry... but I wouldn't want it any other way!! :)

Maggie May said...

this is awesome. change is amazing, and rare.

anthonynorth said...

An excellent perspective. And yes, it is often the case that the richer you become, the poorer you really are.

Heather of the EO said...

So well said. I often wonder how many people don't even notice their "inner poverty" I know I tried to ignore mine for a long time. Great post!

Thank you for your words over on Blog Nosh. I've loved checking out your blog- you're a wise woman :)

Geraldine said...

You have shared some real gems of wisdom here Patois. I guess the middle road can be a very good thing. Well done!

MamaGeek @ Works For Us said...

This? Delicious P.

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