Monday, May 24, 2010

Teacher Gifts

I'm a room parent for Youngest's class. I think I have been a room parent for one of my kids' classes for five years now. Some years, when it's a beloved teacher or when the class is filled with oldest children or onlies, it's easy to get help. And, when the time comes, it's easy to get parents to cough up the cash for the Christmas gift or year-end gift.

Other years, when the teacher is strict or it's in the latter elementary school years, not so much.

How rude of me is it to believe parents should acknowledge the teacher at the end of the year even if they don't particularly like her? Is it against someone's moral fiber to donate $10 if they were less than pleased with how the school year went for her child in that classroom? The funny thing to me is that the three people who complained to me during the year about the teacher are the mothers of difficult kids. Two acknowledge problems they themselves have with their kids. [The other is in total denial.]

The teacher has worked with these kids for 180 days, six hours a day. People fork over $10 and $20 for coach gifts at the end of soccer or basketball or baseball.

It's early in the collection stage. The fact that only three out of 19 families have donated doesn't necessarily mean more won't. The teacher won't ever know who gave and who didn't.

But I will.

6 comments:

Eluciq said...

And it is totally bugging!

I just gave $10 for each of my kid on their soccer team and their dad is the damn coach...the mom had no idea that I was married to the coach when she asked...sweet, huh? I donated, as there were gifts bought for the manager and the asst. coach...

I find people rude when it comes to donating for a gift..and it is always the same people giving...giving...giving...money...time...everything!!!!!

can you tell i have some feelings about this?????? :)

Patois said...

Oh, I can tell you have some feelings about it? Can you tell I do, too?

Tyne said...

Thanks for the reminder that I am cheap! Just kidding, but really thanks for the reminder to turn in cash tomorrow ;)

Stefanie said...

We sign the card with only the names of the families that donate. Which puts a smile on my face.

Capital Mom said...

I got my girl's teachers presents last year, and she is in preschool! I feel like they are so amazing that they deserve a thank you. A gift is something small but it makes me hope they know the love behind it.

Jocelyn said...

Interesting. At my kids' school, there is no general collection, but most kids bring something for the teachers independently. Since my sister is an elementary school teacher, I'm hyper aware of the kind of gifts that are "nice" but pretty much go straight to Goodwill (how many mugs with apples and rulers on them does she need?). I'm all about the giftcards!

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