I'm a room parent for Youngest's class. I think I have been a room parent for one of my kids' classes for five years now. Some years, when it's a beloved teacher or when the class is filled with oldest children or onlies, it's easy to get help. And, when the time comes, it's easy to get parents to cough up the cash for the Christmas gift or year-end gift.
Other years, when the teacher is strict or it's in the latter elementary school years, not so much.
How rude of me is it to believe parents should acknowledge the teacher at the end of the year even if they don't particularly like her? Is it against someone's moral fiber to donate $10 if they were less than pleased with how the school year went for her child in that classroom? The funny thing to me is that the three people who complained to me during the year about the teacher are the mothers of difficult kids. Two acknowledge problems they themselves have with their kids. [The other is in total denial.]
The teacher has worked with these kids for 180 days, six hours a day. People fork over $10 and $20 for coach gifts at the end of soccer or basketball or baseball.
It's early in the collection stage. The fact that only three out of 19 families have donated doesn't necessarily mean more won't. The teacher won't ever know who gave and who didn't.
But I will.