Monday, March 14, 2011

Now I Really Have to Worry

I was reading an LA Times story on anxiety on the part of parents. I could be any one of the mothers cited as over-anxious. Anyone who knows me can attest to that.


One passage struck me as particularly describing me. David Anderegg is a psychologist who wrote a book "Worried All the Time."


"Anxiety thrives on superstition. If you worry about something happening, and it doesn't happen, there's a part of our irrational mind that feels it didn't happen because we worried about it," he said. "So worrying is very, very hard to give up in any domain."


Now, a normal person would acknowledge the irrationality of that whole train of thought.


Me? I just worry that I'm not worrying about enough things in order to prevent them from happening.

6 comments:

Jomama said...

That's parenting, isn't it? Funny!

JTS said...

That line of logic definitely made me smile. I wonder if my mind secretly views worry that way! Sometimes I tell myself I have good reason to worry, as if worrying ever helped or prevented anything. But I'm pretty sure worry is a prerequisite for motherhood. I hate to tell you this, but you worry more - not less, about your children when they are grown, and the dragons they face in their lives are no longer under the bed but stomping around in the real world! :-) My children would both tell you I was much to anxious as a mother, and I would tell you the same about my parents, and yet apparently we all turned out farely well inspite of it! :-)

Patois said...

Sophie, I was just thinking the other day that my parents spent far less time with me and far less worrying about the angst of the upheavals with schools and the like than I do with my own kids. And I thought, "Well, I turned out just fine." But then I laughed. I didn't really turn out too fine. (Kidding, generally speaking.)

Tara R. said...

Oh Great! One more thing to add to my list.

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

I worry and when the thing I'm worrying will happen doesn't happen, then I figure I just got lucky and continue to worry that it will happen anyway. Me? Paranoid much? Why, yes!

Anonymous said...

Patty, I worry about you!!!

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