Thursday, November 15, 2012

No Jolly Christmas for Holly

I think the talk show host nailed it when he said he felt bad about what had happened to these people's lives but he couldn't help but love to watch the train wreck and talk about it. It's what we do: we look at the lives of people in turmoil and it becomes the topic of conversation. It's titillating. Hell, the mere word "titillating" is titillating in and of itself.

Sometimes, though, we step back and acknowledge how horrible some of the innocents must feel in all of it. A spokesperson making the Sunday talk show circuit talked about Holly Petraeus. "Well, as you can imagine, she's not exactly pleased right now." That same spokesperson said David Petraeus said of Holly's state that "'Furious' would be an understatement.'"

I am the child of an Air Force officer. To the best of my knowledge, he never cheated on my mother. In fact, she was the one who ended up cheating on him. "Furious" could have been used to describe him for a nanosecond. But it wouldn't have been enough. "Destroyed" probably encompasses what he felt far more accurately.

I try to imagine how much worse it would be to have it play out in such a public way. I can't. Like the stages of grief, there are probably stages for a betrayal such as this as well. There was nothing anyone could do for my father. There's nothing anyone can do for Holly Petraeus. But I can at least stop watching it play out and remove one set of prying eyes from her destruction.

[Photo courtesy ABC News.]

1 comment:

Jomama said...

I haven't really thought about Holly before this, but my heart goes out to her. When it happened to me (and yes, we are still married, long private story), destroyed was a good word for it. I'll add her to my prayer list.


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