Friday, March 14, 2014

Like Father, Like Daughter

Le Daughter has had a rather rough time of it of late, a bit of her own doing but mostly due to others. Or at least we'll blame the others. She lashed out and got lashed in return. Having sat through an excruciating 45-minute-long talking to from powers-who-be at her school, let's just say that Daughter, Father and Mother are content to never speak of it again. In fact, I have vowed to stop bad-mouthing a certain teacher in front of a certain child so said certain child can harbor her own hatred of said certain teacher without my own more brand of intense disdain oozing out of my pores and into Daughter's.

Cryptic enough for you? I would be more forthcoming but when someone threatens your kid with school district rent-a-cops and defamation suits, you just kind of want to wait until the school year is done and then let the world know what a fucked-up piece of work some people are.

Anyway. Back to Le Daughter. I'm sure I'll take grief from her and from her dad for posting this little exchange from Facebook. At least they won't threaten me with defamation of character. (Of course, when you have so little character, what can be defamed? And, also of course, if one speaks the truth, it ain't slander.)

This is Le Daughter's post:

I just need to get this out there.

I have had a lot of self esteem problems in my past. Unfortunately, those feelings are coming back. At many places I feel unwanted and useless. Nobody really wants me in their presence. But whenever I'm at DANCE CENTER, those feelings slip away and I'm happy again. The girls are like my second family, even the ones who I've only talked to once or twice on my life. I feel like an amazing dancer when I'm there and everybody is by my side telling me I'm getting a lot stronger in my dancing. I have been at DANCE CENTER since I was 8 or 9, and I've never regretted going there. It's my second home. I belong there and I feel like I'm in heaven. Even if I'm there for an hour, all my negative feelings go away. Thanks DANCE CENTER PEOPLE for making me feel happy again.
feeling blessed.

And this is her dad's comment:

I hear you DAUGHTER. Unfortunately, the world is full of people who get their own sense of self-worth by putting other people down. But while it affects you it really is THEIR problem.
As your Dad I take an immense amount of joy and pride watching you go o
ut in to the world and make your own way. I watch you grow and I hope that the world treats you the way I want it to treat you. But as a Dad it makes me sad because I know there are people out there who won’t treat you with the understanding, compassion and respect you deserve. I hate that.

I always wanted a Daughter and whenever I imagined what my daughter would be like I pictured you. I couldn’t have imagined or wanted anyone different. You are the bravest person I know. You have met every challenge that the world has ever presented you with. Your capacity to love and to offer friendship to everyone you meet astounds me and makes me very proud of you. You’re awesome DAUGHTER and having you in my life makes me a better person.

So, just ignore anyone who wants to take away your self-esteem. Surround yourself with the people who appreciate you. All your friends at DANCE CENTER, your friends at school and your Family. And remember, no matter how old you are, where you are or what you’re doing, I’ll always be here to support you. You’ll never have to do this alone.

Now that I’ve embarrassed you beyond belief you can say it. Ugggh Daaaaaad!

Is it any wonder I have such a great daughter given her very awesome dad?

No wonder at all. 

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